Instant Gratification

I work with many people, mostly adults, who often behave more like children than the professionals they are supposed to be. Just like so many children they want everything instantly, caught up in the do-it-now moment and the clutch of shiny object syndrome, running from new thing to new thing without ever fully grasping the last.
It reminds me so often of what a music teacher friend of mine shared with me many years ago. We were talking about her small business and the clients she got and I asked if she had many adults, or was it just children.
“Too many adults!” she shared candidly. “Children are so much better.”
I inquired if it had to do with older hands not being flexible enough or some other such thing and she said no, it was the need for instant gratification. But surely, I suggested, that must be the kids.
No, she told me. Kids love to learn. They strive for perfection and they wish to please. If you reward them for achievement, even just with praise for their accomplishment, they try even harder and if you have patience with their trouble areas they will persist and persevere.
“Children,” she said, “are a pleasure to teach!”
Adults, on the other hand, she went on to explain, don’t want to be bothered with mundane things like notes or scales or timing or any of the foundational exercises.
“Just show me,” most adults would say, “how to play Music Box Dancer so I can play it at parties. I don’t care about the rest of it.”
If you are a professional, or want to be, let alone an expert or guru, then you will want, indeed need, to take the time to learn about the correct tools, the necessary processes, and the requires support materials that form the basis of your work.
You can always hire it done — if you have the funds — but you will probably still want a reasonably sound understanding of those services that are being provided for you. If not you are at the mercy of those you will be forced to hire.


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